Gravity is the weakest physical force in all nature. But it is one of the most obvious physical restraints on Earth and one of the most important balancing acts performed in nature. If gravity were just a modicum weaker or stronger, we couldn’t survive on this planet (we would either float away or be crushed by our own weight!)1
Your gravity as a man and father will either repel key people in your life, or draw them in so tight that they are crushed, if not properly adjusted. Having the right balance maintains relationships in their proper perspective and position with the support and room for growth that is needed for all involved.
One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; – 1Ti 3:4 KJV emphasis added
In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, – Titus 2:7 KJV emphasis added
The definition for gravity in these biblical texts is “the characteristic of a thing or person which entitles to reverence and respect, dignity, majesty, sanctity.”2 It is elsewhere translated as “honesty” (1 Tim.2:2). That is a powerful statement of what it takes to hold your family in submission. It starts with this question; “What about me is attractive to my family?”
Honesty is attractional. I think there is an important point to remember when portraying honesty to your children and family: what you say and what you do must match. Flawlessly.
Fire is attractional. What are you passionate about? Does it draw the interest of your wife and kids? Can they tell people that don’t know you what you are all about?
Light is attractional. Specifically, lighting the way fro your family. Do you tell them things about themselves they don’t know or fully realize? Do you point out the pitfalls of life before they become a problem?
Respect is attractional. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” is not just polite, it is pivotal. No one wants to listen to someone that will not listen in return, or share ideas to someone who only criticizes, or asks for help from someone who only scolds.
Loyalty is attractional. So many people grow up knowing how NOT to trust someone, because they were told by a parent, “I’ll always be there for you,” but they weren’t there.
Integrity is attractional. Knowing who you are talking to and trusting that that person will always be the same, consistent, rock-steady person every time is extremely comforting and attracting to those you love.
These are only a few things I can think of that are supported by scripture and will build the gravity needed to keep your children and family safe and growing. What else can you think of?
1Lee Strobel (2004), The Case for a Creator, Zondervan:Grand Rapids, pgs. 131-132