Victim is my new word to describe the opposite of leader. No one likes being a victim, but I catch myself blaming others for my circumstances and my position and at that moment I become a victim. When I remember I can always chose my attitude and my reaction, I become a leader, at least of my self.
From Mike Henry, The Opposite of Leader. Read the article here.
Why can’t victims lead?
It has nothing to do with a person being abused, misused, rejected, or harmed. In fact, people that come out of adversity often have the determination, experience, and understanding to help people that otherwise could not be helped or led into a better life.
Here are some big reasons that people who REMAIN victims can’t lead:
A victim mentality will tell you that things will never change. You can’t lead without HOPE.
Victimization usually occurs in cycles, especially within families. You can lead until you get on a PATH to a better place.
Victims have their own self-worth eroded. You can’t lead without SELF-RESPECT.
Being a victim causes distrust of people. You can’t lead without TRUST in others.
Ultimately victimization results in acts of destruction toward self or others, particularly destruction of relationships and opportunities. You can’t lead without GOODWILL and LOVE.
How else does a victim mentality keep people from being a leader in their homes or organizations?
Next time: Coming out of a victim mentality!
This is part of a series on overcoming a victim mentality and moving forward in life and leadership. Read the first post in this series here.