I don’t know exactly what this meant to him, but I tend to think that he feels comfortable enough without my hand being in his space that he is returning the favor of an assuring hand to me. I also think that he is gaining some independence, but he still wants to know someone is there.
Signs of growth are always exciting- and I believe that is what I witnessed tonight.
But I’m not ready to leave it all up to him to care for me- he isn’t mature enough for that. When I have my hand in the crib for him to lay on, he twists it up so uncomfortably until it is in a comfortable position for him. And though he offered his hand to me tonight, he still wasn’t happy unless I used it the way he wanted me to (and he let me know, nice and loud!)
So here is a quick picture of the difference between growth and maturity:
Young and immature: I’ll help myself…
Growing but immature: I’ll help you in my own way…
Growing and maturing: I’ll help you in the way that is most helpful to you.
How frequently do we adults say (in our minds) “I’ll help you, but in my own way?” When/with whom are we most prone to be that way? How do we snap back to maturity?
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