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The Source of a Parent’s Instruction
“Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. (Psalms 119:105 KJV)”
“My son, keep thy father’s commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother… For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life: (Proverbs 6:20-23 KJV)”
They say there is no manual for how to parent a child. True, when a child is born, there is no set of instructions that comes with him, no step-by-step how-to’s, no illustrations. The verses above show us that there is a direct connection between a parent’s influence and the Bible.
The commandment of a father, and the law of a mother, has to come directly from the lamp and light of our lives- God’s Word.
The Word is our guide for walking through life. The Bible gives each of us guidance for how to live life. Far from being a dusty, ancient book, it is living instruction for navigating the paths of life. More than just being classic literature, the Bible is spiritual and moral teaching for all people at all times. Think we don’t need the Ten Commandments or the Golden Rule today? More importantly, the Bible gives us the plan for being saved in eternity. Belief on Jesus Christ that leads to repentance, baptism in the name of Jesus, and infilling with God’s Holy Spirit is what the whole book is about. Our example in spiritual and moral concepts will have the most significant impact on those around us, especially our children.
The Word is the source of a father’s commandment, a mother’s law. “And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently to thy children…” (Deut. 6:6-7). Teaching the Word of God is necessary. The only way that our words as parents have any weight is if they come from the Word of God. The scriptures above from Psalm 119 and Proverbs 6 show a direct connection between effective parenting and God’s Word- the only way for us to be effective is to speak God’s commandments and laws, and then we shine a light for our children to walk in.
Applying example and instruction from God’s Word, we can rightly guide our children in the way of life. Reproofs are those subtle course corrections that have to be made in life to stay on the right track. Parents can’t ignore the need to correct their children. It doesn’t matter if you made mistakes when you were young. It doesn’t matter if you think your teenager is too far outside of your influence. You have to declare what is right in God’s sight and live it to the best of your ability, for your children. Applying God’s Word to your children’s lives, as you help them make decisions and understand consequences, is the only way they can make the connection between what they have seen and heard from you and what they should do to please God.
We aren’t expected to make things up as we go. “Because I said so” may be effective to gain a child’s compliance, but it does not mean that every word from a parent’s mouth is true or valid, just because a parent said it. The Bible is to be the script and the measuring stick of each lesson we teach our children.
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