Update: Had a blast doing some play dough and dart guns with my youngest. I had to tell him I couldn’t play a time or two as well. Such is life. Saying yes when you can and no when you must is important for building a sense of appropriate boundaries; there’s a time to work, to play, to sleep and to get up and get dressed, and to eat. We can build boundaries with predictable routine, but we also must help our younger children know that there are times we must say no and have that no respected. The “no” times are easier when they have confidence that we will get around to a “yes” moment sooner or later. No all the time is limiting and discouraging.
Read the first post in this series here.
On to another change…
I’m working my last week of on-call shifts as a crisis counselor before moving to a new position as a regional supervisor. I will stick to the ways this change has been challenging personally rather than interpersonally or professionally.
I’ve been in the work of crisis intervention and suicide prevention with children and teens for nearly 10 years now. In that time, I have transitioned from crisis counselor to a program supervisor overseeing a team of crisis counselors, back to a crisis counselor, and now to a regional supervisor overseeing two program supervisors and their teams covering all West Tennessee. My first transition to management was after almost 4 years on the front line as a counselor. I was nearly burned out on the shift work and the direct exposure to clients and their problems, but I still really believed in the work our program does. I looked forward to the opportunity to lead a team and shape the development of counselors, serving the clients and families through them.
This time, my step back into management is a bit bittersweet. Facing some of the same challenges as the first time I left front-line counseling, I took the opportunity to apply for the regional position, which includes overseeing two teams instead of one. Big picture thinking and project management capture the positive reasons I wanted to step back up into this management role. As I have had to spend about a month wrapping up my crisis counselor responsibilities before the official change date, I have been reflecting on some of my recent cases and the good work I’ve been able to do directly with families. Also, I have seen ways that I could have done better, and I won’t get the chance to improve those things once I am in my new role.
A raise, a better schedule, and a bigger impact are all good reasons to take the new job, but I also can’t help but feel I’ll be missing out on something. Sound strange to you? Have you ever had such feelings about a job change? Let me know what you think.
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