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What Matters Most

We live and die by the priorities we set.

The answers to the question, “What matters most?” may be many and varied, but the consequences for not answering are great.

Leading ourselves isn’t nearly as much about managing time as it is about managing priorities. Making the most of your time means spending quality time on what counts.

The steps of a [good] man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way. Psalms 37:23



Throughly Furnished

All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works. (2 Timothy 3:16-17 KJV)

Based on verse 16, I have come up with 4 C’s for being “throughly furnished” unto God’s work:

Caring: We all care about something; a passion that drives each of us. Instruction from the scripture is meant to shape our natural passions into passions that please God.

Character: Character matters, especially in a day in which everything seems relative and little is believed to be absolute. The correction of God’s Word is a character-shaping function that conforms us to Christ.

Competence: If you want someone to follow you, they have to know that you know where you are going. Doctrine is a teaching in order to build knowledge and increase competence in the work of God.

Confidence: It is so important to be convinced of who you are and Whose you are. The reproof of God’s Word is what separates the pure from the impure, and proves that there is an undying purpose in your heart for your work.

Combining the 4 C’s mentioned here in your life and work will make you a high performer and a noticeable leader. When the source of the 4 C’s is the Word of God, you will be throughly furnished for eternal work and an asset to Jesus’ Kingdom.

Don’t You Have Somewhere To Be?

And it came to pass, after the year was expired, at the time when kings go forth to battle, that David sent Joab, and his servants with him, and all Israel; and they destroyed the children of Ammon, and besieged Rabbah. But David tarried still at Jerusalem. (2 Samuel 11:1 KJV)

“Don’t you have somewhere to be right now?” is a question we have all heard at some point. The person asking, usually a parent, teacher, or spouse depending on your age, typically is not asking for their own benefit, and they usually know the answer already.

If there had been a higher authority than King David in Israel, then perhaps someone would have posed this question to him as he stood in the comfort and safety of his home. He was supposed to be off to war. But he was in the wrong place at just the right time to make a huge mistake. In due time, David committed adultery with Uriah’s wife.

Big trouble happens when we aren’t where we should be. It becomes easy to lose track of important priorities when we aren’t attending to our duties. Plenty of people mess up and blame some sort of character flaw for their fall, but much more often, good-intentioned people fall into moral, ethical, and spiritual pits because they are not spending time in the right places, working on the right things.

Be at home working on your family relationships. At work earning a living. In school getting an education. There is a time for everything- for fun, for rest, for work. Take work home less and be involved at home.

Wives and children get neglected when time passes without the presence and involvement of a husband/father. Whether physically or emotionally absent, there are consequences for not fulfilling your role in the lives of those around you. Don’t you have somewhere to be right now?

Culture vs. Process (starting at home)

I admit it. I am a process guy. Throughout my life, I have not always been the best organized person, so I have learned how to develop processes for almost everything that I do. The good thing is that conceptualizing everything and boiling it down to a simple process comes pretty easy to me.

The bad thing is, process may produce efficiency, but it does not produce quality. Take family life for example. Rules, discipline, and consequences are so important in developing good habits in children. In my line of work, we try to help in the regard quite often. When life is chaotic, as it seems to be for so many these days, it helps to have a process for gauging appropriate behavior and providing rewards or consequences accordingly.

As important as process is, it takes creating an overall expectation for interaction and behavior that goes beyond just following rules in order to create caring, responsible adults. There are a few points of consideration that may help get beyond the mechanics of family life and begin working on a culture of positive interactions:

Communication- begin early. Babies are spoken to all the time. Somewhere along the line children get harder to talk to- but you can’t stop. If you want to be able to talk about the real problem areas of life for teens (and expect your teen to speak to you in return with honesty and candor), communication should be top priority. Speak about a variety of things, positive and negative. Give praise and constructive criticism as appropriate. Tell them what you like, and listen to what they like. Find enjoyment in being together.

Consistency- not only in your relationship with your child/family, but in every area of life. Inconsistency shows through in whether or not we do what we say we will do in all areas of life. Children and teens take notice.

Community- promote it in daily life. Moms, dads, brothers and sisters need to do things together at home and in public just because they’re family. Community provides context for conversation and allows family members to be themselves the presence of those closest to them. Common activities should be opportunities for everyone and not taken away from anyone in the family as a punishment.

Next time- process vs. culture in an organization.

Starts with Dad, Starts at Home

For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him. (Genesis 18:19 KJV)

Does the Lord know this about you, dad? Is the legacy and the blessing safe with you? Will your generations to come call you a blessed example, a great believer, a strong provider, a faithful teacher? Can God deliver on the promise that is meant for your family through faith, because you impart faith to your family?

Live simply. Love completely. Lead diligently. Serve humbly. Start at home.

Choose, This Day

I can’t claim to be your leader.  And you can’t claim to be the leader of someone else.  But by default or design, you and I lead.  To Heaven, help, and hope; or heaviness, hurt and Hell; we lead.

“Choose you this day whom you will serve,” as spoken by Joshua, was not just a personal decision.  A moral and Godly nation, family, or person cannot just say, “I choose.”  “Put away the strange gods among you, and turn to God,” was the next instruction. What a mockery it would have been for a nation to claim that Jehovah was the One God, while privately the people set up idols among the other peoples.  The world would be led to hurt, not to healing.

There must be a decision and dedication that shows through, a walk to match the talk, a touch to match the voice.  And for good, or ill, we lead.

What Will They Remember?

What will they remember?

The words that you will say?

The way you touched their hair, or

How you played their favorite game?

What will they say?

Will they praise the highest Name?

Will they make the greatest case, for

Life without doubt and blame?

What will they do?

Will they work while it is light?

Will they make the best of what they have and

Fight the faithful fight?

If things you do before your kids

Seem fruitless and in vain,

Remember, they remember things

And they are yours and mine to change.